Understanding One's Self

This could be the most critical and righteous decision that you will ever made. In contrast, this could be the assessment that you will regret. Some may say that going out will give some ecstasy, but you may also suffer from great consequences because you have chosen to be part of that taboo. Whatever choice you have decided, here are some tips that could make you feel better.

1.       Know yourself.

Knowing yourself seems to be as easy as facing a mirror telling yourself that you are gay, or lesbo, or a bi, or it may also be telling your friends that your name is MJ and you live in a certain street of a certain place. No. It is more ambiguous and complicated than that. Knowing yourself may be as complicated as counting your hair, or finding the total number of stars in a calm night. You should have the courage of asking yourself these questions.

·         Who am I? What do I really want to do with my life?

·         After this, can I make sure that I will really be happy? What about the people around me? Can they also be happy after I made this decision?

·         What about the people that cannot understand my real situation? How can I make them understand?

·         Can I now accept the consequences of these? Can I endure the pain that people could give as judgment?

After answering these questions, take a deep breath. Cry if you want to. Do not cry because you have decided to be part of the community, but cry because you have made the most upright decision in your life.

2.       Accept yourself.

No one can accept you of you do not accept yourself first. You do not need to judge yourself if your decision if your decision is yes. It is pretty normal if you have that feeling. Some may say you are weird of you will not. Just accept the fact that you are different. You may cry again if you want to. You may even shout and slap yourself if necessary. You can also talk to yourself in the mirror.

3.       Have some companions.

Let us just say that having a true friend is really a challenge. You need to meet a hundred, or worse, a million people first before you find one. It is just like you need a very specific drop of rain when it stormed. You need to have your own criteria (which may be a case-to-case basis). You may want to have a friend who belongs in the same community. You may also want someone who understands you. Even physical appearance may also be a basis for finding one. Just always put in your mind that trust is really a must in searching for these. If you already have these, be thankful. Cherish every second with these loved ones. Make every second with them a very memorable one. Or else, you will end up alone in this world without someone to lean on. You cannot live alone.

4.       Do not complicate things to avoid hesitation.

Tick-tock-tick-tock.

Oh God! Because I am like this, they will judge me.

No one loves me.

Do not have that kind of mindset. As what the previous things have sad, just accept yourself.  You should always put in your mind that making things complicated could make things worse. Do not be paranoid. Do not act like a stupid person. Just because you are like that you are not loved. The answer is really a big freaking NO. Sexual orientation is not really a basis of not being loved. Bro (or sis), you should always put that in your mind. Suicide is not really an escape. Have some companions, and in the end, you will be happy.

These are just some of the things that you will undergo. No matter what you choose, always tell yourself that you will really have a better life because of this. Who knows? You will be the greatest person on earth because of this.