Most, But Not All

I am a guy, but I am attracted to all, no, most of all sexual orientations.

The speaker speaks for himself. That  is what you call polysexuality. Big words, right?

Polysexulaity is a sexual orientation where a person is attracted to almost all gender orientations. Take note on the almost all phrase. Polysexuality does not really necessarily mean that you are really into all sexuality. It is just that you have certain sexual preferences that you are really into.

Well, you are now quite confused with its difference towards pansexuality. Pansexuality denotes all gender orientations. You are really into all types of sexual orientation. There are times that you are attracted to homosexuals, bisexuals, or even to transsexuals. On the other hand, polysexuality only refers to almost all gender orientation. You might like a bisexual or heterosexual, but it does not really necessarily mean that you are also into homosexuals and bisexuals.

Bisexuality is already discussed in the previous paragraph, so it also the same with polysexuality? The answer is no. Take note on the prefixes used in the words. Bisexuality refers only to two people. You are only to male or female, but polysexuality can be attracted to a more than two people.

Don’t be confused people. Just remember the prefixes.

The LGBT Community: The Reality

Based on the newscasts nowadays, gender inequality issues arise as the people in the world try to compete in the globalization. Ironic as it is, we tend to still learn the things that somehow we have already unlearned before. People still managed to maintain their view towards this kind of people. The effects of education and mass media, however, also did a very great job in lessening the effects of this discrimination.

What are the discriminations that this people still undergo? Can we lessen the effects of such things?

The LGBT community still experience discrimination not only in schools, but also in work places. Even though they have very good performances in their works, they still experience the discrimination. These discriminations were in the form of physical, verbal, and emotional abuse. It is physical in the sense that some people exert some force when doing such things (i.e. pulling one’s hair, grabbing the arms, etc.) Some people also have a habit of saying bad words to some people that leads them to their misfortunes. Unfortunately, verbal and emotional abuse gives more impact than the physical abuse. As the saying goes, “Mas madaling maghilom ang sugat ng katawan kaysa sa sugat ng puso.” The effects of these verbal and emotional abuses tend to stay longer than those of physical exploitation. This could lead them to lose their self-confidence, happiness, and this could make them attempt suicide.

On the other hand, some organizations were formed to protect the welfare of this people. In the Philippines, Ang Ladlad pushes the equality among the people in the society. Their argument states that we are born equal in the eyes of God, so why some people cannot say that we are also equal in the eyes of the law. Unluckily, this organization cannot represent the LGBT in the congress because the COMELEC does not give them the permission to run during elections, yet still, they managed to do their job no matter what.

I guess that in the future this discrimination will be abandoned and the world will live happily ever after. Well, I guess I am just being too realistic.

Understanding One's Self

This could be the most critical and righteous decision that you will ever made. In contrast, this could be the assessment that you will regret. Some may say that going out will give some ecstasy, but you may also suffer from great consequences because you have chosen to be part of that taboo. Whatever choice you have decided, here are some tips that could make you feel better.

1.       Know yourself.

Knowing yourself seems to be as easy as facing a mirror telling yourself that you are gay, or lesbo, or a bi, or it may also be telling your friends that your name is MJ and you live in a certain street of a certain place. No. It is more ambiguous and complicated than that. Knowing yourself may be as complicated as counting your hair, or finding the total number of stars in a calm night. You should have the courage of asking yourself these questions.

·         Who am I? What do I really want to do with my life?

·         After this, can I make sure that I will really be happy? What about the people around me? Can they also be happy after I made this decision?

·         What about the people that cannot understand my real situation? How can I make them understand?

·         Can I now accept the consequences of these? Can I endure the pain that people could give as judgment?

After answering these questions, take a deep breath. Cry if you want to. Do not cry because you have decided to be part of the community, but cry because you have made the most upright decision in your life.

2.       Accept yourself.

No one can accept you of you do not accept yourself first. You do not need to judge yourself if your decision if your decision is yes. It is pretty normal if you have that feeling. Some may say you are weird of you will not. Just accept the fact that you are different. You may cry again if you want to. You may even shout and slap yourself if necessary. You can also talk to yourself in the mirror.

3.       Have some companions.

Let us just say that having a true friend is really a challenge. You need to meet a hundred, or worse, a million people first before you find one. It is just like you need a very specific drop of rain when it stormed. You need to have your own criteria (which may be a case-to-case basis). You may want to have a friend who belongs in the same community. You may also want someone who understands you. Even physical appearance may also be a basis for finding one. Just always put in your mind that trust is really a must in searching for these. If you already have these, be thankful. Cherish every second with these loved ones. Make every second with them a very memorable one. Or else, you will end up alone in this world without someone to lean on. You cannot live alone.

4.       Do not complicate things to avoid hesitation.

Tick-tock-tick-tock.

Oh God! Because I am like this, they will judge me.

No one loves me.

Do not have that kind of mindset. As what the previous things have sad, just accept yourself.  You should always put in your mind that making things complicated could make things worse. Do not be paranoid. Do not act like a stupid person. Just because you are like that you are not loved. The answer is really a big freaking NO. Sexual orientation is not really a basis of not being loved. Bro (or sis), you should always put that in your mind. Suicide is not really an escape. Have some companions, and in the end, you will be happy.

These are just some of the things that you will undergo. No matter what you choose, always tell yourself that you will really have a better life because of this. Who knows? You will be the greatest person on earth because of this.

Being Vain Is Not Gay!

I am a guy and I am so vain. I wanna keep myself clean for my figure. I put some face powder, lip balm, and all the other stuff. I am not homo, or bi. I am just vain. My friends mistakably say that I am like that. I am just like this. I want them to understand.

Well, we can always expect society being so judgmental. They judge even though they lack some evidence. This could really cause some people to have break downs if they are not really used to it.

Metrosexuality defines a heterosexual man who behaves in certain ways that would normally be deemed feminine or stereotypically homosexual. They do a lot of vain stuff such as putting face powder when they already look gross, having some massage in a weekend or two, or simply just having a putting some nail polish in their precious nails. He is the one who spends hours in the gym and has gallons of gel on his hair. He can be seen at the hippest of clubs, wearing the trendiest of clothes. He has the money to spend and knows what to spend it on. He likes a Siberian cucumber facial as much as the next and will recommend his favorite deep sea body scrub to you. It may be stereotyped as habits of women, but metrosexuals do it in a way that the society can say that they are some sort of gay.

The history of metrosexuality dates back in the Victorian era. . The typical wealthy male was a “slightly effeminate aesthete, who is rich, idle, and blasé; a man whose existence is defined by luxury, elegance, and the perpetual pursuit of happiness”. In the modern era, metrosexuals are now coined to slightly effeminate men who live luxurious lives.

In order for you to be one, you really need a lot of money to maintain all your vices. It is a really serious stuff that you are really entering to.

Metrosexuality can be credited to either the psychological manipulation of the consumer by corporates and advertising, or it can be due to the simple inherent need for change, the need to be different from one’s predecessors.

So, if you really thinking that you are gay, better think again. You might only be metrosexual. See you in the parlor!

Saying No is Not A No-no

I am a guy, but I do not feel anything towards my opposite sex (even towards my same sex). I guess I am straight but they still argue that I am not. What should I do?

Oh well. Asexuality.

In layman’s term, asexuality is sexuality when a person does not feel any sexual attractions towards others. Scientifically speaking, there is nothing scientific when we are talking about its cause. It just happens that some people are just asexual. Simple.

There are many variations of asexuality. First of these is gray-asexuals. These are people who have experience sexual attraction infrequently or not very strongly or possibly aren’t quite sure whether or not what they experience is sexual attraction. The second one are called demise-sexuals. They are asexuals that can experience sexual attraction only after developing a close emotional bond with someone.

Many misconceptions are experienced by these people. Asexuality is not celibacy or abstinence. A person who has fear of sex is not asexual. This is not realated to pledge or  a religious act. This is not sexual immaturity. Most of all, asexuality is not a relationship, a status, and a hormonal imbalance. Asexuals can fall in love, it’s just that they are not really interested in sex

When can you say that a person is asexual? If someone thought that everyone else was just pretending to be interested in sex, well, that is a sign. A sign also shows that if someone is just pretending to be interested in sex. Well, if your partner would rather play Xbox than have sex with you, he or she could be asexual.

Some argues that asexuality does not exist, but because my source exist, and he says that he is asexual, well, asexuality exists. It’s just like being straight, but not really interested into women.

Loving All Is Not Always Greediness

I am a guy, but I guess I am attracted to all sexual orientations. I’ve been into relationships before with a [straight] guy, a girl, a homo, and a bi. I’m pretty confused with my sexuality. What am i?

If you are thinking the same thing with that guy above, well, you might be called as pansexual. Pansexuals have the capability of attraction to others regardless of their gender identity or biological sex.

What does it mean? A pansexual can have sexual attractions to all sexual orientations (it may be hetero, homo, or bi). Regardless of what a person may be, you can still fall in love with him or her.

Right now some of you are thinking of its difference with bisexuality. Bisexuality denotes only two genders. They can only have sexual attractions to those male and female sexual orientations. That is the main difference of pansexuality to bisexuality. Pansexuality is open to people who fall at all points or even outside the gender continuum. Let us take this for example: a bisexual can only fall in love to a straight male or female, but a pansexual can have a sexual attraction to all sexual orientations in the spectrum, such as bisexuals and transexuls!

Another term that is kind of confusing is polysexuality. The main difference with this to pansexuality is that they can also be attracted to many sexual orientations, but it does not really necessary mean that you are attracted to all. A polysexual may like a straight male, female, and bisexual, but it does not mean that he can also have sexual attractions towards homosexuals. That is its main difference with pansexuality.

Some people may think that pansexuals does not have any standards because they are open to all types of sexual orientations. That is a no-no for them. A misconception perhaps. Pansexuals do have sexual preference. Even though they like all types of people, they still have to pass their standards (i.e. height). Stereotyping is what they really hate.

Pansexuality is not being greedy. It’s just they like everyone.

Colorful Beings

I am a guy, and I love my guy best friend. What should I do? I don’t wanna go to hell and do some shit there.

I guess this is the most prominent (and most widely accepted) sexual orientation. Well, they seem to be the most colorful among all sexual orientations.

In the Philippines, a male homosexual is named as bakla, baklush, bayot, fairy¸gay, and among others, while a female homosexual is commonly referred to as tomboy, tibo, lesbian, etc.  They are said to be taboo because of their norms, and the society does not really understand why they existed. Some say that it is because of some genetic factors, while others pushed that it is because of some environmental factors. Seriously, no one really knows why.

Some say that they are the reasons of the disasters that are presently happening nowadays because God punishes them for their misconducts. However, some consider them as Gods as well. In India, the third gender, gays to be particular, are respected because they are said to be the counterpart of the Indian God Vishnu when he has gone to the earth before. In relation to this, these people are treated with good conduct. They are said to cure some known diseases because of this relationship with Vishnu. On the contrary, in reality, the LGBT community still feels the prevailing discrimination from the society. This is widely known in the cases of bullying, human trafficking, and racial insults and among others. One big example for this is the statistics regarding to suicide in India. Every 90 seconds, a person, or an LGBT in particular, attempts suicide.

They suffer most of the consequences that the other member’s wrongdoings have done. They tend to feel that they are alone. They stereotyped as sex-whores. They just live for sex. They are the banks of boys who do not have any money.

Let us always remember that they are also people. Try to imagine that there are no homosexuals, and you will realize that the world will not always be as it is right now.